Ok got more info.
After many research and trial:
In order to have rx and tx on the ext ant, we need to set
option rxantenna 1
option txantenna 1
yes both ; option rxantenna 1 wont work alone
https://dev.openwrt.org/ticket/7576
but diversity is still not fixed (which I would like)
someone posted a patch, but I don't know how to apply patches yet
http://patchwork.openwrt.org/patch/1914/
Richard
p.s.
Not sure diversity can work well since the second port seems to be a rx port only
Not a good thing to transmit and receive on different type of antennas with different coverage